Spirituality
How Enlightened are You John?
I’m not enlightened. But, I’m definitely lightened from my enlightenments. Once I try to claim enlightenment for myself my ego grabs a hold of the idea and everything gets very strange quickly. I start feeling grandiose, heavy, and unhappy. I’d rather stick with just being me. My doubts, thoughts, and emotions are not me. My…
Read MoreDo I Need to be Spiritual or Religious to Have an Enlightenment Experience?
No! You just need to inquire into the truth of how things are. There is no difference between enlightenment and truth. The enlightenment experience itself is direct. In other words, there is no sensory intermediary between you and what you are experiencing. The experience, the experiencer, and the experienced are one and the same. However,…
Read MoreWhat is Enlightenment?
The first thing to understand about enlightenment is there’s nothing to actually attain. It is truly, “just you,” your natural state. As we come into this life we gather identities of different kinds. We select what is “me” and what is not “me.” In this way, we need to develop an ego in order to…
Read MoreUnconditional Positive Regard: The Key to Powerful Relating
We’ve all had interactions with people who believe in us and really connect with us somehow. Those interactions are often inspiring and energizing. The connection can also inspire a sense of loyalty to that person. This is the power of unconditional positive regard. Do you have a person like that in your life? If so,…
Read MoreHow to Stay Engaged in Difficult Situations: The BOAT Process
Here’s a simple four-step process that can help you get engaged. It’s called BOAT (Breathe, Observe, Accept, Think) because it can keep you afloat during turbulent times and help prevent you from sinking into the energy draining patterns of resistance. The BOAT process can be used during times of duress and throughout the day to…
Read MoreEnergize Draining Activities
Step 1 Does it need to be done? Check to see if the task actually needs to be done. If the task doesn’t need to be done, you’re done with it. Step 2 Do I need to do it? If the task does need to be done, see if there is a person more suited…
Read MoreWhat is a Growth Mindset and Why Does it Matter?
A growth mindset is an attitude of curiosity, and even eagerness, when facing a challenge. It is cultivated by focusing on one’s growth, process, and efforts whereas a fixed mindset is reinforced by: tying one’s personal value to the results one can produce focusing on efforts to prove whether one is talented or not the…
Read MoreMaintain a Growth Mindset for more Creativity, Wellbeing & Effectiveness
Check out my post “What is a Growth Mindset and Why Does it Matter?” It will help you understand these tips. 1. Celebrate difficulty. It often means brain growth It’s the times when we are really stumped that often prompts the most brain growth. So, when you feel you’re at an end think “Yes! my…
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